Why Owning Your Success Is Not Vain, But Important!


Rebound Effect

Have you ever tried bouncing on a trampoline in an indoor building with 20 feet high?  According to the International Trampoline Federation, the minimum height for an indoor facility that supports trampolining is above 26 feet in height.  You might not hit the ceiling as you would be so conscious about bouncing too hard and therefore limit yourself from jumping high. Imagine the ceiling is way high at 40 feet or if it were outdoor, you are bound to bounce harder and jump higher simply because there is no upper limit problem.

It’s NOT your Fault, it’s simply our Human Brain

Similarly, just when you think everything in life is sailing smoothly, all of a sudden, you lose your job, your marriage falls apart and you catch a nasty flu.  In his book “The Big Leap”, Gay Hendricks calls this the rebound effect. It happens because our reptilian brain, which is the oldest part of the brain that takes care of the vital function of human body, contracts with the new experience.

This is his quote on how we sabotage ourselves as we have a breakthrough:

“Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure.” and he calls this Upper Limit Problem.

Dis-solve your Problem

“The Upper Limit Problem cannot be solved in the usual way we solve problems: by gathering information or replacing one set of information with another. The Upper Limit Problem must be dis-solved, not solved. You dissolve it by shining a laserlike beam of awareness on its underpinnings — the false foundations that hold the Upper Limit Problem in place. When you shine the light of awareness on the underpinnings, they disappear.”

Own your Success – Re-calibrate the New Baseline

As we go through the ups and downs in life, we often delve with the negative side of things.  We need to take time to honour our new experience, our new greatness and our new success. Instead, we need to sit with this new level of achievement and allow it to sink in and to re-calibrate with our reptilian brain.  This new high is now the new normal, the new baseline that allows us to elevate our next glass ceiling.

Are you on a Growth Path?

If you are on a growth path, I encourage you to make it a habit to sit in silence everyday.  Take this quiet moment to connect with yourself, to reflect and especially to acknowledge the positive changes you have made for yourself, your loved ones and your work.  You deserve to be a better version of yourself, be proud to own your new identity.

What if you smell Self-Sabotage from miles away?

We all deal with our upper limit problems differently.  How can you make a positive move the next time you hit the glass ceiling?  What is your reset button or magic pill? It could be ramping up your exercise, going for a walk, meditating, hanging out with like-minded people, reading inspiring book, doing a body cleanse with green juice or nurturing yourself deeply with self-massage.  Trust your intuition to reset before the self-sabotage sets in.  Knowing that your upper limit is a moving target, always be ready to re-calibrate and to reset.

What is your Upper Limit Problem?

What areas in your life are you looking to improve?  Have you noticed a familiar pattern, the ups and downs that go nowhere, instead of the one that leads to an upward trajectory?  Perhaps it’s time to find your role model, a coach or any help with proven and sustainable results, if you are serious about it.